THE CONNECTION CODESBLOG
A journal for the emotionally curious. Essays, practices, and field notes for naming what is happening underneath the conversation.
What we're sitting with this week.
You Can't Stop Hurting Your Partner. But You Can Do This Instead.
You can't stop pain from landing in your relationship. But you can learn what to do when it does.
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What Your Triggers Are Really Trying to Tell You
A trigger is not a malfunction. It is pain with a memory, and an invitation into the kind of connection you cannot get any other way.
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Joy Is Not Your Green Light
Joy is not permission; it is information. The work is learning to receive what felt good without letting it decide.
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What If the Kindest Thing You've Been Doing Is the Very Thing Keeping You From Being Truly Known?
Why going quiet can feel like love while quietly keeping you from being truly known.
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The Cost of Not Crying
What stopping your tears is actually doing to your body and the people you love most.
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Their 43 Feet Is Real — Even If Yours Is 4
Why your partner's overreaction may be a nervous system at its ceiling.
Connection CodesThe conversation most couples never quite have.
Essays on tenderness, desire, repair, and the small daily acts that decide what happens after the lights go off.
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