“The Core Emotion Wheel exercise secured the foundation of our relationship.”
Judy EgletiConnection Codes · The guide to human connection
You don't needbetter intentions.You need better tools.
Save your marriage and connect like you never thought possible. We hand you the exact language for the moments you keep missing each other.
Sound familiar?
The toothpaste fight was never about the toothpaste.
You can share a bed and still feel alone.
You can be heard and still not feel heard.
You're not the problem. You've been missing a map. Think of it as a user manual for emotions, except this one actually makes sense, and there's a place to practice it.
The window
A core emotion can't last 19 seconds when it's met with presence.
Research shows an emotion dissipates in under 19 seconds if it isn't reactivated. Defensiveness reactivates it. Presence processes it. Every tool we teach fits inside that window.
Free starting point
The Core Emotion Wheel gives you language before the fight takes over.
Joy, Anger, Shame, Guilt, Fear, Lonely, Sad, Hurt. Every human feels all eight. The wheel gives each one a name and the need underneath it, so you can bring that language into the Community where it becomes practice with real people.
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Real couples
Small daily language. Big relational repair.
“Tuning into my emotions instead of just reacting has been a huge shift.”
Jeannie Hinds“These practical and profound tools have changed our lives.”
Luke & Claire FarmanEmotion is the lost goldmine of relational connection.
The front door
You don't have to practice this alone.
The Community is where the tools become ordinary life. Bring the fight you keep having, the repair you want to make, the emotion you finally found a name for. Thousands of people are practicing the same language right alongside you.
Where to go
Whoever you are, there's a door in.
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For churches
Coming soonChurch curriculum
A connection curriculum for congregations and small groups, built on the same tools. It's on the way.
The guided path
Your marriage will completely change in 90 days.
That's not hype, it's a proven method. The Connection Academy gives you weekly live teaching from Dr Glenn and Phyllis, guided homework, and a cohort doing the work alongside you. The first 90 days rewire your marriage. Then it goes deeper: intimacy, then parenting.
Connected Marriage
Trust, repair, attunement, and rhythm.
Connected Intimacy
Safety, closeness, and a new way to reach.
Connected Parenting
Bring connection home to the whole family.
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The tools the Hills' created are shaping generations. We're so grateful our paths crossed!
You've brought light, you've given us language for things we didn't know how to talk about, you've helped us become a more powerful couple.
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For the first time, we can be completely vulnerable with each other, knowing we'll be truly heard, and deeply loved.
Ever since I stumbled on your page and podcast, my eyes were opened to my unhealthy patterns and my life changed. Now I know I matter.
It's brought us more peace, joy, and emotional freedom than we ever imagined.
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The wheel gives you language. The Community gives you people. The Academy gives you a guided path when you are ready for structure.