Stories
Some of the stories that fill us with Joy!
20 couples and coaches, filmed in their own homes and in our studio, talking about what changed. Most are under two minutes. None of them are scripted.
Marriages
Couples, from fifteen years in to forty-three.
Some had tried counselling. Some had read the book three times. All of them are still married, and say it differently now.
I can see us 99 years old, still holding hands.Lauren & Jesse GomezMarried 15 years
Maybe instead of yelling at each other… maybe we can talk to one another.George & PamMarried 39 years
We've shared things we never talked about in our whole entire relationship… it wasn't that we didn't wanna talk about it. We just didn't really know it was there.ConnieMarried 43 years
For the first time in 30 years, being able to process and talk to my wife.SeanMarried 30 years
A few weeks ago I cried with my wife… it was the first time I ever cried with someone.MatthewHusband and father
He gave me and my husband the tools to see one another… and then we were able to be a safe place for our kids.NathalieWife and mother
I feel 20 pounds lighter… we've been married 25 years and it's the strongest it's ever been.Tiffany DavisMarried 25 years
I've seen him transformed. I've seen our marriage transformed.TanjaMarried to James
It's very rare for me to be able to express and share my emotions and really have that kind of connection with anybody.KendallHusband
The coaching cohort
People who trained to do this for others.
Filmed at the end of their thirteen weeks. Pastors, worship leaders, therapists, and several who had never coached anyone in their lives.
You are about to enter into the best bootcamp on the planet… it's gonna take it from information to application.Amie JoCertified Coach
I don't even think you need to take this training as a coach.Zach WatsonCertified Coach
The worship world is a fake it till you make it place. No one talks about how they feel.Paul McClureWorship leader · Certified Coach
I missed so many things until the cohort… now I feel like I've got a totally different relationship with myself.LibertyCertified Coach
She's never felt more connected to me ever than when I signed up to do this coaching course.Ben RusinPastor, Australia · Certified Coach
I don't have to be brilliant to be a coach. I can just be me.AshleyCertified Coach
Logistics don't connect us. Emotions do.Kate PruynCertified Coach
I love being with a group of people who I didn't have to pretend. I could just be myself.DoniCertified Coach
All the tools I've had before were like other people's glasses… I realised I didn't need any glasses.Laura LondonCertified Coach
I resisted Connection Codes as too simple for a while… I didn't think anything could blow the lid off who I am, as a person or professionally, the way this has.MichelleCertified Coach
During this cohort, I feel like I finally found my voice.Sarah McMinnWife and Certified Coach
In writing
And some of the messages that were sent to us.
Newlyweds, couples thirty-four years in, people who did this on their own, and one church. Sent to us unprompted, used with permission.
“After 5 years of craving connection but unsure of how to get it, we were in pain. We'd tried therapy, but it wasn't until we found Connection Codes that everything changed. It taught me how to be vulnerable with my husband instead of retreating or attacking.”
“After 26 years of marriage, we felt hopeless about truly connecting — until we found the Core Emotion Wheel. For the first time, we felt heard and safe to share without defending our feelings.”
“Connection Codes has been the most impactful relationship tool we've encountered in our 34 years of marriage. We've taken many marriage courses, but this has been next level — helping us connect in ways we never have before, not just with each other but with our adult children as well.”
“Connection Codes completely transformed our marriage and the way I communicate. For 15 years, I shut down and avoided hard conversations, letting unresolved issues pile up. Now, we finally have a simple way to reconnect — and it's changed everything.”
“The Connection Codes have been TRANSFORMATIONAL for my marriage. We've experienced a deeper marriage in the last month than we have in the 5 years we've been married.”
“Instead of spiraling into the same painful arguments, we now use the Core Emotion Wheel to truly hear each other and reconnect. It's brought us more peace, joy, and emotional freedom than we ever imagined.”
“For years we struggled with our communication and emotions — we began to think it would never get easier. Then we learned the Connection Codes tools and they've changed our marriage, friendships and life. This is the best investment we've ever made.”
“We've spent a small fortune on marriage and family counseling and have never made so much progress so quickly. So simple, implementable and powerful.”
“My fiancé and I just completed your Foundations course and we absolutely LOVED it. We have continually seen the evidence of how your class has radically helped shape and grow our relationship for the better.”
“As newlyweds doing the Foundations course, we gained tools to build a stronger foundation. Something as simple as learning how to be present and respond with an 'Oooo' has made us so much stronger.”
“With the tools from the course we have been able to start building a solid foundation of emotional and spiritual health in our first year of marriage… It has been worth every penny.”
“Our relationship has completely transformed. Even on hard days, we have hope — because we know how good connection feels and have the tools to get back to it, grow, and truly enjoy each other.”
“Connection Codes saved my life. What started as a fun new emotional health tool quickly became a lifeline for me in what felt like an inescapable darkness.”
“Adding the Core Emotion Wheel to my yoga practice has been so healing. I go through the core emotions as I move through the yoga flow. I'm able to transition from work to home in a way I never could before.”
“The more I learn these tools, the more aligned, at peace, and powerful I feel.”
“Ever since I stumbled on your page and podcast, my eyes were opened to my unhealthy patterns and my life changed. Now I know I matter, and I deserve to be seen, heard and known — so freeing.”
“The Connection Codes have been a gamechanger. As a result, I recently reunited with a sibling who hasn't communicated with me for decades.”
“The Connection Codes was a very beneficial experience for our church and gave us great tools to practice… We are grateful to have made this investment in our people.”