The Connection Codes
The Blueprint & Tools for Creating the Relationships You Crave
Paperback and audiobook. Also published in German.
It is the language of your birth.
Humans are coded for relational connection with other humans. Often that coding has been short circuited and needs reactivating. However, we do not need to learn it, we need to relearn it. This is not a new language; it is the language of your birth.
The Connection Codes are the culmination of over 30 years of research, education and experience and draw from many centuries of insights and wisdom.
What you get is a vocabulary you can use out loud: eight core emotions, each with a message and a need, on one wheel you can put on the kitchen table and work through with the person sitting next to you.
“This is dedicated to everyone in pursuit of the deep connection that makes life worth living.”
I don't want to be vulnerable until I know you're safe, but I won't know you're safe until I'm vulnerable. So, someone has to take a risk.From the book
Five sections, in the order they actually help.
Identity
p. 1Emotion: A Human Right
p. 53Core Emotion Wheel
p. 99The Cycle
p. 147Relationship Science
p. 169Conclusion & Beginning
p. 189What people did with it.
I've never experienced something so practical yet deeply transformational. Every area of my life has been impacted for the better by the Connection Codes.
Chris Cruz
Being able to connect with my employers, help them process their emotions and communicate well has been a total game changer. Record revenue year — thanks Connection Codes.
Bryan Harris · founder of Growth Tools
The Connection Codes tools have given me a new framework to help explain children's emotional needs and development to families.
Dr Laurie Tucker · pediatrician
The Connection Codes have truly changed our lives — we use the tools every day! It has been absolutely beautiful and amazing to see how much stronger our connection with each other and our kids has become.
Seth and Lauren Dahl · Austin TX
We've spent a small fortune on marriage and family counseling and have never made so much progress so quickly. So simple, implementable and powerful!
The Kohlers · Zurich Switzerland
I so appreciate that the connection code is taught from a psychological and scientific perspective, not just a blanketed, ultra-spiritualized and sensationalized sentiment.
Bethany · Chicago IL
Everyone needs the Connection Codes! It opens up a whole new world of intimacy and connection we never knew existed! We talk Connection Code with everyone now like it's a second language.
Jalila Hudson · Nashville TN
I have recently reunited with a sibling who hasn't communicated with me for decades. I am so grateful for this series — it is life-changing, and I thoroughly recommend it to everyone!
Gay Hartley · Melbourne Australia
For years we struggled with our communication and emotions — we began to think it would never get easier. Then we learned the Connection Codes tools and they've changed our marriage, friendships and life.
Miriam & Michael Strand · Kalisz Poland
Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill
Dr Glenn Hill is a therapist, sexologist and author with a private practice in Nashville. Phyllis Hill is an entrepreneur and the engine that keeps everything running. Their greatest credential is their 40 year marriage, and together they founded the Connection Codes.
Echo Hill-Vetter is their oldest child, as well as a wife, homeschooling mom, writer, and Connection Codes coach with a passion for helping families thrive.
Section three is a tool. You can have it before the book arrives.
The Core Emotion Wheel is one page with the eight core emotions on it, in plain language. It takes about four minutes to do with someone you love.