Eight emotions
Anger, hurt, loneliness, fear, guilt, shame, sadness, joy. The wheel walks you through the most recent time you felt each one — so you start to recognize them in your body, in real time.
Your seat's saved · Tuesday, July 14
Meet the wheelbeforewe go live.
You're in for July 14 — nice. Before we go live, press play. Glenn and Phyllis walk you through the Core Emotion Wheel: the four-minute tool underneath everything we'll do together. Consider this your warm-up.
The Core Emotion Wheelwith Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill
Your homework before July 14
Grab the wheel — and actually do it.
Heard us mention it in the video? Here it is. Print it, sit with your spouse for four minutes, and run the eight emotions. Walking in having already felt it makes the live hour land ten times harder.
Grab the free wheelPDF · opens in a new tab · 4 minutes to do
What you just watched
Connect over the emotion, not the logistics.
Just Oooo…
While one of you shares, the other says nothing. You just “Oooo…” An audible sound that tickles the brain, signals you're listening, and keeps you from defending or fixing.
Four minutes
Two minutes per person. The wheel in front of you, not in your hands. Eyes on each other as much as the pain allows. That's the whole practice.
Emotions aren't good or bad. They're guides.
Their whole job is to lead you back to safety — and back to each other.Try it before we go live
Three things couples get wrong about their own emotions.
“Won't this stir up negativity?”
Naming hurt, fear and shame out loud sounds like it'll start a storm. It won't. Those emotions are already inside you — the wheel just gives them somewhere to go. They aren't good or bad. They're guides.
Slower is faster.
Two slow minutes of being truly heard do what an hour of problem-solving can't. The moment you stop fixing and start to Oooo… them, the same old fight loses its fuel.
It travels.
Sit with your spouse. Then your kids. “I've been using the wheel for a few months and the difference is almost unrecognizable — we stop fights before they start. My kids even ask to do it.” — Jessica
Psst — you already have one
That “Oooo…”? It's the first of the three phrases.
On July 14 we hand you three short phrases that change how you fight — short enough to remember mid-argument. You just met phrase one, live, inside the wheel. In the live hour we go deeper on why the Oooo… works in the brain, and reveal the other two. You're already one ahead.
01“Oooo…”You've got this one ✓
02— — —Revealed live · July 14
03— — —Revealed live · July 14
Who you just watched
We fought over the dishwasher for years too.
Phyllis and Dr Glenn Hill are the founders of Connection Codes. Stuck in the same cycles — the dishwasher, money, the in-laws — Glenn went back to school for a master's and then a doctorate in relationship and family therapy, chasing one question: what actually makes couples connect, and what makes them disconnect?
The answer became the Core Emotion Wheel and the Connection Codes framework, now used by tens of thousands of people. These days a tense moment in their house rarely lasts 30 seconds. Slower, it turns out, really is faster.
You're in. We'll see you live.
The wheel showed you the emotion. On July 14 we give you the words — starting with a deeper look at that Oooo… Drop the hour in your calendar so it doesn't slip.